Mama Bear time

[valarltd]

Bunny and I talked this evening.

She's not just taking a little crap at school (a little being defined as a random vicious comment that everyone gets). She's being actively assaulted on a daily basis. Some little bitch thinks it's funny to push her down the stairs of the gym.

So, she's keeping a log of what happens, when and who is behind her when she gets shoved. Also on the efforts she makes to avoid it. And Monday, she's going to the gym teacher with it. "I'm getting pushed down the steps. Could you keep an eye on things when we come in and see if you can catch them in the act?"

Should the gym teacher (who is a good sort) not act, we move up the chain calmly and cleanly, until I am standing in the principal's office yelling about assault law-suits.


On an upside, we got her pen and ink and some sample alphabets she likes. She's practicing.

Comments

[thefannishwaldo.livejournal.com]

Get the gym teacher to keep notes too. A kid's log will be taken only half-seriously. (Kids can be vindictive, so they may point out innocent kids in their notes), so have the gym teacher keep notes about when Bunny talked to her and what steps she took to curtail the problem. (This is good for both Bunny and the teacher) This way when you have to go to the next level, you can say, "Hey look, we asked her to do something about it and keep notes, she didn't. Now it's your problem"

Waldo.

[socalledsuicide.livejournal.com]

I agree, take action ASAP. Dr.Phil had a show about this today. How bullying has gone too far, and it really has. I mean, I thought I had it bad, I just got called names. But kids nowadays are being physically abused, and it's just not acceptable. Let Bunny know the only reason they're doing it is because they have low self esteem and it makes them feel better about themselve knowing they can pick on someone. It's dumb, but that's really the reason they do it. Unless they have some personal issue, then they usaully get thier whole "click" in on it, then it just gets way out of hand. Being assaulted is no way going through school. I wish you and Bunny the best of luck<3.

[dragon-lord.livejournal.com]

What a vicious little bitch.

I hope your Bunny gets everything taken care of.

[tanacawyr.livejournal.com]

Squish their miserable heads like grapes. The kids that are doing this have got to be stopped, and it's great that you are behind her 100%. It's a good lesson for Bunny to learn that there are things that are not tolerated, and this is one of them -- that when she is being hurt, that is just NOT ACCEPTABLE.

[valarltd.livejournal.com]

She hadn't complained because she's not actually getting hurt. She lands on her feet and it's a very short flight.

But, my stepfather put my mother in the hospital with a laundry basket and 5 steps. I'm not taking any chances. And she shouldn't have to "get used to it."

If I felt really evil, I'd suggest she actually fake a fall, and sit howling on the gym floor until the teachers took action. But that's just dramatics. I think the cool, logical approach is much better. Document, document, document.

Mudd can say "law of the jungle" all he wants, but I'm the biggest, meanest mama elephant out there and I will stomp those little hyenas.

I have an additional, slightly evil idea!

[dakiwiboid.livejournal.com]

Have her report to the school nurse after being shoved so that she can get any bruises, etc. documented. That'll kill two birds with one stone, both documenting things for this problem and possibly distracting Nasty Nursie from harassing you.

Re: I have an additional, slightly evil idea!

[valarltd.livejournal.com]

It's only 4 steps and she always lands on her feet. No bruises.

But the Nurse giving me trouble is exclusive to the elementary school. They have a different one at the Jr. High.

Great idea tho'.

random commenter

[dedamona.livejournal.com]

TAKE ACTION NOW! i was bullied all through school. in junior high, i got pushed down a flight of concrete stairs with steel edges by bullies. three skull fractures (i rolled down a flight), mild but permanent brain damage resulting in five years of speech therapy, a good stay in the hospital and a couple of weeks out of school later due to the severity of my concussions. GO TO THE PRINCIPAL! IF ACTION ISN'T TAKEN IMMEDATELY, GO TO THE SUPERINTENDANT. THEN THE SCHOOL BOARD. THEN THE DEPARTMENT OF EDUCATION. ENSURE THE SAFTY OF YOUR CHILD! i will spend the rest of my life paying the price for another child's vindictiveness. unfortunately for me, it happened during class time (i was doing an errand for a teacher) and i was pushed from behind. once i started rolling, the person who did it ran. i never saw who did it. whoever did it went on to do it to someone else. this isn't about just your daughter. this is about every other child this malicious thug can go on to hurt and is probably currently hurting.

Re: random commenter

[valarltd.livejournal.com]

Hi.
Are you a local Scadian? (we only have Kestrel in common)

We are definitely taking action. I won't have her hurt, nor will I have her learn that other people can abuse her just for their pleasure.


Thank you for the story that is giving me added urgency.

Re: random commenter

[dedamona.livejournal.com]

actually, i'm not in the sca, never even attended an event and i'm in denver. it's a long tale as to how i know kes. but pass on to your daughter that walking into my ten year reunion as the former geek (my akward phase only lasted about from the fourth grade until twenty one) was truly a thing of glory. i had the former mr big man on campus hitting on me, cheerleaders apologizing to me, and those who i was completely tormented by running with their tails between their legs. it does balance out in the end. it's just that the end takes a long time.

[raincitygirl.livejournal.com]

Fucking HELL!!!!!

I think you guys are taking all the right steps here, but I'm still angry she has to go through this. Some people suck. And some kids suck.

[vysila.livejournal.com]

Well, hell. You've got the right plan to deal with - at least as far as legalities and admin protocol are concerned. My maternal instinct says go squash the little assholes with your big mama foot, though.

Bunny's smart and beautiful and open and honest about herself. That'll help her through this, even if it's also in large part why it's happening. Glad to know you're backing her all the way.

Go get 'em, Angel.

[dangermousie.livejournal.com]

That is horrible. It really should be documented and the little horrors who do it should have severe action taken against them. Permanent record and all.

It is really great that you are supporting and protecting her. I was bullied severely once when I was in middle school. My grandmother went with me the next day and stood outside the school doors and when I pointed out the girls collared them bodily and dragged them to the Principal's office where she let loose. Never got bothered again.

[slashmommy.livejournal.com]

Big hugs to you and Bunny. While I didn't have the push me around kind of bully in Jr. High, I had the other joy -- boys with grabby hands. I'm pleased to see that Bunny is talking to you about what is going on and that you're both taking steps to stop it. Another suggestion that might help is to suggest Bunny -- have her walk with a friend or friends in the hall. After some of the neanderthal, held back for failing grades, 9th graders started grabbing at me in the halls, I talked with a nice 9th grade boy who was the student assistant in one of my classes and after that he would walk me to class and to my table at lunch. With Mark with me I was safe when I went from place to place.