Open letter

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Dear Principal:

Thank you for all your help on the Bun Situation. Thank you for the talking to teachers and the safe space in the counselor's office.

But you know what? Fuck you for being offended she's out.
I know you want the kids to concentrate on academics. But you know what? Their hormones are percolating. They're talking boyfriends and dates and heterocentric TV shows.

She's not flirting with girls.
She's not kissing girls on your time.
She's not doing anything except exactly what she was before she answered one question.

Get over yourself.

Oh, and fuck you on the religion front too. If you have a problem with her being a witch (and I know she doesn't talk about that) how are you going to cope when you get the Muslim boy next year?

There are days I wish she really could turn her tormentors into toads. I think it'd be a revelation.

And fuck you again for getting offended when I quoted Corin Faw about the South: "Where they drag us behind their pick-ups for being queer, when they don't just stone us for being witches." Hit a bit too close to home, did it?

No love, and minimal gratitude,
The Activist Dyke Mom.

Comments

The D-Man checks in

[(Anonymous)]

You are undeniably an excellent mother, and wonderfully/deservedly supportive of your daughter, however... (donning the armor plate and hefting a large shield before continuing): "I do hold to the opinion of choosing your battles and not needlessly making yourself a target in what you should know is going to be a hostile environment, especially at this tender age when any difference can be grossly magnified to (wrongly) justify character assassination and/or physical assault by the ruling majority of (supposedly 'normal') peers. I question Bun's wisdom in choosing to go public, especially livin' down in that thar part of this here country y'all is in now... Which aint rightly ever been known for its great tolerance of anythin' out of the Bible-thumpin' ordinary. I have lived (and continue to live) a double life with my own kinks, and while it would be nice to be open and widely accepted, knowing that I will not be has kept my very much underground... But safe. I am certainly no coward, but I don't see the wisdom of making a bold stand upon a one-sided battlefield I can avoid--where I know I am going to be out-numbered and out-gunned, plus likely let down by those who are (officially) supposed to be impartial and protective of us non-conformists. I seek out my own kind, I keep up false appearances, we keep to the shadows with our unorthodox activities, and we survive."

Re: The D-Man checks in

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1) She didn't "take a bold stand." She simply answered a question from someone whe thought was a friend.

2) When the "friend" proceeded to spread the information all over school, there was nothing to do but stand tall.