Who is worth protecting?

[valarltd]

This question has been on my mind lately, especially since I've had two incidences of commentors attacking other commenters as people, not on their words, and deleted one flat-out advocacy of raping a woman whose opinions differed from the commenter's own.

In my journal, you can take people to task over their beliefs and ideas as hard as you like.

You may not insult the person. You may especially not insult them with misogynistic or homophobic words.

You can say, "That's the dumbest thing I ever heard. How can a smart person like you believe such tripe?"

You cannot say, "You evil bitch-whore of the patriarchy, you deserve to be raped by baboons and torn to pieces."

The problem with saying any woman, even a whore of the patriarchy, deserves rape, is that pretty soon every woman ends up in that category, making every woman an acceptable target.

Someone who makes a rude and tasteless joke deserves to be told "Tacky tacky tacky," and no more. Someone who reprimands the joker for the words is fine. Someone who attacks the joker as a person will get the thread frozen. Thank you for your support, I can stand up for myself in my own journal.

If you say something dumb, and we all do, expect to be challenged over your words. But, as long as I can freeze threads, you will not be attacked as a person.

Because everyone is worth protecting, at least in this space.

P.S. Don't abuse it. I know enough not to mistake passive-aggression for zen.

Comments

[elisabeth.livejournal.com]

As 'wrong' as it may sound, I'm almost relieved to hear that I'm not the only one that's had this issue. I literally had to phone someone and tell them to back off after a comment string turned into a war. That said, it's also a bit discouraging that it's more common than the isolated instances I've had.

Also... *hugs* Blessed Yule to you and yours.

[valarltd.livejournal.com]

Nature of the internet and all that.
I just am trying to avoid wars.

[partly-bouncy.livejournal.com]

Glad I'm not seeing that in your comments and sucks that you have to deal with it. :( Additional stress is no fun.

[valarltd.livejournal.com]

It's been about three instances in the last 2 months. And I want to make sure it's not happening again.

[synamontwist.livejournal.com]

Huggs, sorry you are having drama. People are really holidaied out I guess.

So I have about 12 5mls of BPAL and I have lost count of the imps.Over 200.

How did you miss that on my blog?-poke-

I even sent out home made soaps and scents with my Christmas cards and only 6 people responded.LOL

See you in 2 weeks and we can discuss the addiction that is BPAL.

Love Kes

[valarltd.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure how I missed your blog and call for cards. I am totally hooked on BPAL. I forsee many orders.

BTW, how do you store your imps?

2 weeks? Oh, Shadowcon. I'm driving back from Kansas City on Sat and have a mandatory work meeting on Sun. Can't make it.

I need to talk about Chimera. And Dragon's Milk. And test Depraved and Kurkulla.

[synamontwist.livejournal.com]

I have 2 plastic compartmentalized boxes that I keep the scents in and a tackle box for the soap and oil supplies plus my non bpal stuff, THEN crap strewn about all over the place.lol


very very VERY addictive.

[nebris.livejournal.com]

"You evil bitch-whore of the patriarchy, you deserve to be raped by baboons and torn to pieces." Will it get me banned if I confess to laughing at that? ;D

~M~

[valarltd.livejournal.com]

Nah, I went as over-the-top as possible on that.

[valarltd.livejournal.com]

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