Heartbroken

[valarltd]

I'm having a Debbie moment.

My Extra Kid got kicked out of his parents house.
What kind of parent throws their barely 18, non-self-supporting, carless, not-yet-out-of-high-school child out of the house over movies!

He rented Monster with Charlize Theron and watched it privately. The Gay Quotient of the film finally tipped the balance over, and his father gave him the boot. He has until the weekend. They know he's gay and have been working on him. The only thing they haven't done is sent him to Love in Action.

He has a place to stay, and he knows my futon is always there too.

But I just want to shake his folks. They have a brilliant, funny, wonderful boy and all they see is a hell-bound faggot.

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Re: The D-Man checks in

[ruckuskitten.livejournal.com]

Look, I don't know you and I hate starting or getting involved in arguments online, but living in your parents isn't legally a right, but it's an implied right until you're out of high school, like valarltd said. And the military is a terrible place for most people and isn't an automatic solution for life's problems. I'm glad Angel's looking out for him.

Try to have some understanding.

Re: The D-Man checks in

[(Anonymous)]

Living in your parent's house is an implied right? Implied by whom? I never had such implied security. I know of no 18+ year old who did nor does, save for those who are so hideously co-depentant on each other they shall never move out. If you want to live someplace after you are legally of age, you have to expect to have certain standards you must meet to stay there, wherever it is. Never said the military was an automatic solution for life's problems; just an option here. I am also pleased Angel is looking of for this kid, but I do understand where his parents are coming from too. You want to live under my roof? You do so under my rules. You don't like it... Leave. This kid made his choice.

Re: The D-Man checks in

[(Anonymous)]

More to the point... Before we all judge this kid's parents too harshly, take a personal head-count: How many people do you hang out with who routinely embarrass you, and how many adults do you invite to stay under your roof who disrespect and disrupt your core values & beliefs? Unconditional love is apparently not a core value in this family (something I am personally familiar with), and even if it were, just because you are blood does not give you the right to insult people and expect them to do nothing about it. As stated earlier, this did not just happen. This has been brewing & boiling in this family for a long time--the latest, and now last, in likely a long line of running disputes--and enough was finally enough.

As for hating the sin but loving the sinner... It is rather difficult to love the sinner when they keep on sinning, especially for the hard-core religious. Homosexuality is just not something these people are prepared to accept nor even tolerate. Their house; their rules. Sounds to me like everyone is so busy feeling sorry for this kid that nobody is holding him accountable nor responsible for his choices.

Re: The D-Man checks in

[valarltd.livejournal.com]

Since he is not sexually active, there is no choice to hold him accountable for.

Re: The D-Man checks in

[(Anonymous)]

I disagree. Being a gay male entails a great deal many more choices than merely choosing to take the dirt road home, just as being a straight male in our society entails choices: How you talk, how you dress, how you walk, how you socalize, how you behave, how you entertain yourself... Many of which might embarrass your straight-laced parents--who decide whether or not you live under their roof once you are an adult. Many of which might get you beat up or killed if you dare cross certain people in certain settings.