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I don't agree with the march itself. But the video is cool.

http://www.rightwingeye.com/



I am not Pro-Choice. I am not Pro-Life. I believe abortion is killing. But I also believe there are times when a death is the only answer. The good of the many outweighs the good of the individual.

I also think too many women are irresponsible. There's a classic southern legal defense "he needed killin'." There is a medical diagnosis "too stupid to live." My opinion is that there should be the position "too careless to be trusted with a uterus, let alone a baby."

I think a woman who finds herself needing an abortion for reasons other than fetal deformity or her life is stupid. She is careless and irresponsible. She has failed to control her fertility and her body.

But I won't stop her getting one. I reserve the right to hold her up as a poor example of responsible feminity.

Date: 2004-04-09 06:57 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] valarltd.livejournal.com
I maintain that in civilized countries there is no reason for a woman to get pregnant when she doesn't want to be. Part of being a sexually active adult is being responsible.

Birth control is easy to come by. If you can't afford $5 for a box of condoms, how on earth can you afford a baby?

Pro-Choice people are trying to have it both ways, saying that a woman is mature enough to have sex, but not mature enough to be responsible about it. I find that a more degrading view of women than anything I can hold.

I believe that we must behave as intelligent beings in order to be treated as such.

Yeah, I'm quite capable of making mistakes. But you know what? I was sexually active for 14 years and never got pregnant when I did not want to be. If I can do it, any one else can.

I maintain that unplanned pregnancy is not an accident akin to slipping on ice. It's more akin to being maimed while driving drunk.

Date: 2004-04-09 07:55 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] yonmei.livejournal.com
I maintain that in civilized countries there is no reason for a woman to get pregnant when she doesn't want to be.

Well, I don't disagree that a "civilised country" is one where everyone who is old enough to be sexually active has free access to contraception, and everyone from before the age of sexual activity has been taught how to use contraception: but by that definition neither my country nor yours is civilised yet. (And I think even in this hypothetical civilised country you envisage, there would likely still be mistakes, faulty equipment, and rape: for which reason.)

Part of being a sexually active adult is being responsible.

Exactly: yet for some reason you condemn an adult who is responsible enough to terminate a pregnancy that she does not want to continue, as "careless".

Birth control is easy to come by.

Not invariably in my own country, despite the NHS. And from reports, not invariably in your country, either. Neither is education in how to use birth control as available as it ought to be.

If you can't afford $5 for a box of condoms, how on earth can you afford a baby?

Isn't that why your hypothetical "civilised country" would have free contraception, available to both women and men?

Pro-Choice people are trying to have it both ways, saying that a woman is mature enough to have sex, but not mature enough to be responsible about it. I find that a more degrading view of women than anything I can hold.

If you think that giving a woman the right to make decisions directly affecting her own life is degrading to her, sure. But you can hardly call it "irresponsible". Making decisions about whether or not to stay pregnant is taking responsibility, rather than (as the pro-lifers want) forcing a woman to hand decisions like that over to the government.

Yeah, I'm quite capable of making mistakes. But you know what? I was sexually active for 14 years and never got pregnant when I did not want to be. If I can do it, any one else can.

How nice for you. As I said before: I really don't think you "hear" how hurtful and arrogant your attitude is. I like you too much to wish ill on you, but I admit that it's awfully tempting: you appear to have deliberately switched off all humility and compassion in this specific area. You never made a mistake, so anyone who did is beyond the pale. You have no concept of why someone might fall pregnant when they didn't mean to be, and you don't intend to try and understand it: just condemn it from your superior position as a person of complete moral rectitude.

Date: 2004-04-09 08:34 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] valarltd.livejournal.com
Actually, I'm classing any country where one can walk into a store and buy a pack of condoms without a second thought as civilized. If I wanted to, I could hike the 3/4 of a mile to Wal-Mart, buy condoms, spermicidal foam and a contraceptive suppository this minute. It is like that in every town in the country.

I condemn her for getting pregnant in the first place.

I don't believe in male contraception. It's not the man who gets pregnant so it's not his problem. It's nice if he gives it some thought, but most men aren't that considerate.

My attitude is deliberately hurtful. I do not suffer fools gladly. I put 90% of women in that category to begin with. And things like this only confirm it.

No, I have no concept of why someone would catch pregnant when they don't want to be. The information to avoid it is out there. The tools are out there. Why aren't people educating themselves?

Why is demanding that women act as if they have half a brain and aren't ruled by their emotions ("Oh i got swept up in the moment!") a bad thing? Why is wanting people to think ahead and plan considered arrogant?

I'm not asking anyone to do anything heroic or even difficult. I'm asking women to make their choices before they have sex, like adults, and not go running to the daddy-doctor to get them out of the consequences, like children.

Date: 2004-04-09 08:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] yonmei.livejournal.com
Actually, what I consider arrogant is your presumption that you owe your record of never having become pregnant against your will to your own virtues. Self-righteousness is another word for it.

But if you are intentionally and joyfully arrogant about your own virtues and hurtful about other people who fail, well, that does make you the kind of person I don't like very much after all.

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