A difficult situation
Mar. 4th, 2015 12:05 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
valarltdSo, I have a stalker. I know who it is. I am in no physical danger.
But I find myself limiting my on-line life.
On fetLife, I am active on the FroliCon boards, but limit myself to the most innocuous trivia. "There's a Waffle House and a good Chinese place not far from the hotel.Turn left out of the hotel drive, go until you hit the main stop light. Left again. Waffle House isn't far down on your left, and the Chinese joint is over the interstate."
I don't post anything personal about what I'm wanting from the con, because my stalker will try to horn in on the weekend without actually going, get pics of me doing anything I might do (newsflash, 90% of my weekend is spent behind a dealer table, just as it is at any convention), and quiz me for details afterward.
And worst of all, I can't find him on FetLife to block him, which would solve most of this.
I can't talk to Mudd about this because he'll say it's my own fault for talking about such things and encouraging him. Update: Mudd is firmly in my corner on this.
I don't talk about many personal things here anymore for the same reason.
I don't write lesbian fic for the same reason.
My life is not for a man who is not mine to paw through with his grimy hands and soil and tear and defile.
I dislike having to limit myself. It makes me feel incomplete in the one place I have always been myself.
But I find myself limiting my on-line life.
On fetLife, I am active on the FroliCon boards, but limit myself to the most innocuous trivia. "There's a Waffle House and a good Chinese place not far from the hotel.Turn left out of the hotel drive, go until you hit the main stop light. Left again. Waffle House isn't far down on your left, and the Chinese joint is over the interstate."
I don't post anything personal about what I'm wanting from the con, because my stalker will try to horn in on the weekend without actually going, get pics of me doing anything I might do (newsflash, 90% of my weekend is spent behind a dealer table, just as it is at any convention), and quiz me for details afterward.
And worst of all, I can't find him on FetLife to block him, which would solve most of this.
I don't talk about many personal things here anymore for the same reason.
I don't write lesbian fic for the same reason.
My life is not for a man who is not mine to paw through with his grimy hands and soil and tear and defile.
I dislike having to limit myself. It makes me feel incomplete in the one place I have always been myself.
The D-Man Checks in
Date: 2015-03-07 01:58 am (UTC)Points of Note:
1.) If you put anything out on the internet, people are going to paw through it with their grimy hands, possibly soiling, ripping, and defiling it... so be careful. Get with the 21st century, babe...
2.) Are you maybe doing/sending/writing anything special/unusual that would stoke the fires of this stalker? Any of this stalker's interest/obsession with you possibly from your own doings?
3.) Are you sure you are dealing with a stalker, or just a dedicated fan?