Aug. 19th, 2012

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I ran across this article and it got me thinking: http://finance.yahoo.com/news/stern-advice-money-buy-happiness-165229204--sector.html A Harvard study shows that people with money are more satisfied the more they get, up to about $75,000, which is about the cost of a middle class lifestyle.

Let's be real. All our lives we've heard "Money can't buy happiness," usually as sour grapes from someone with no money saying it about someone with money.

Maslow applies. Maslow ALWAYS applies. Whether the pursuit of happiness or a zombie apocalypse, Maslow is your guide to survival. You must meet the lower level needs before you can progress to the higher level needs.

Money buys your Physiological Needs (food, shelter, warmth). This should be in no dispute. If this need is not met, all the others are moot.

Money buys your Safety Needs (security, stability, freedom from fear). Again, no dispute. Money lets you live in a building with working locks, or in a better neighborhood, or not move every six months, etc.

Money can buy your Belonging Needs by giving you leisure to have friends or join organizations, being able to afford social activities. It cannot make another fall in love, but it can make relationships much smoother if you're not constantly fighting about money. (number one cause of marital fights!)

Money can buy situations where you can fulfill your Self-Esteem Needs. Witness George W Bush buying oil companies, ball teams and the presidency, or just look at vanity presses. It makes you independent and can buy you situations where you can excel. It cannot GIVE you the Self-Esteem, but it can make the achievment or the mastery easier to acquire.

Money buys your Cognitive Needs. It gets you books, teachers, an education and can aid you in your search for meaning. It won't give you meaning, but it does help you find it.

Money definitely buys your Aesthetic Needs. You can SAY that your child's crayon work on the fridge is as good as any Rembrandt, but you know you're lying/deceiving yourself and everyone else knows it too. It's the Sims, really. If you're broke, you settle for a pretty poster, maybe second hand. If you have money, you can buy a really nice sculpture. It can't give you talent, but it can surround you with beautiful things.

Money can only buy some Self-Actualization. You have to figure out who you are. But it helps you seek out peak experiences, by providing leisure time for them, (not easy to have a peak experience when you work 16 hours a day) and the money for them.

Money cannot outright buy Transcendence. But it can put you in a position where you know people (hard to have a social life with a 16 hour work day), have achieved your own self-actualization, and have the time and means to teach and help others.
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It's been a productive summer.

I wrote one novel, finished one and rewrote a third.
I crocheted a baby blanket and read 10 books. (may I say I LOVE having books on my phone?)
I watched 8 movies.


So here's what's coming this fall!

Monday, my kids go back to school! I'm already back on the 1 AM shift. 

Obi-Wan Chrisobi will be a senior this year.  He got a 29 on his ACT and is quite disappointed. He's planning to go to University of Arkansas, Fayetteville.
Jonner is a freshman. This is his last year at the junior high.
Oli is a big sixth grader, top dog at the elementary school.
Mudd has a lot of 7th and 8th grade classes this year. He's kind of dreading it.

Sometime soon, Hard Reboot will be out.

HardReboot (click cover for link)


How much love do you need to pull your brainwashed wife back to herself? How much risk are you willing to take? How many powerful people are you willing to defy? Con-man Sean O'Neill learns more about himself than he knew existed as he tries to rebuild his wife, Caitlin McLean, from the wreckage of the sex slave that powerful men made her into.
On August 31, I have some chainsaw wielding to do. I'm cutting out a stand of young oak that are endagering our house foundations. Cutting them on the Blue Moon feels right.

Over Labor Day, I will be a guest at Memphit Fur Meet. My first furry con! I am excited.
Author Reading and the Art of Steampunk is 8 PM Friday, I have a panel on "Care and Feeding of small presses" at 2 PM Saturday

In September, Carved in Flesh, a scar anthology, will be out from Storm Moon Press. Naomi and I have an unconventional romance called "Tiocfaidh Ar La" in it. A badly scarred former IRA explosives expert falls for the night programmer.

September 16-22 is the Literary Underworld Blog tour. A bunch of us Underlords will be blogging all over the net. Watch this space, it should be fun!

I have the Mabon ritual for my Grove. We're also doing an initiation of new members and a Warrioring. We worship the Four-fold Goddess: Maiden Warrior, Mother and Crone. And one of our Maidens is stepping into the Warrior phase of her life.

My dad turns 68 this year on Sept 30. Wow.

October 18 is Festival of Souls and I'm still considering.

On October 26, Spellbound Desire comes out. This is a heterosexual urban fantasy novel from Ellora's Cave.

She's a hard-drinking PI on the Nightside of Memphis. He's a Scottish combat mage on his last mission before retirment. They fight crime demons.

November 9 is ConTraception in Kansas City! Looking forward to seeing my friends and selling books!

As always you can find my books at Brooks and Sparrow.

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Aug. 19th, 2012 12:00 pm
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J.H. Glaze is running a scavenger hunt from his site
http://www.jhglaze.com/giveaway.html

First Prize:

All first prize winners will receive either an ebook or signed paperback from participating authors +Swag Pack
You will get to choose 1 item from each column.
Column A
An Amazon Kindle
$75 Amazon Card
$75 Visa Gift Card

Column B
JH Glaze Tote Bag
JH Glaze T Shirt
JH Glaze Custom Ereader Skin

Column C
Signed Copy of The Spirit Box
Signed Copy of NorthWest
$10 Amazon Card

And second and Third prizes are nice too.

I've put ADVENTURESSES into the mix. Go, what do you have to lose?

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