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valarltdLe sigh.
At Dear Author, a gay man has showed up to tell all the silly women We're Doin' it RONG! and that women writing gay men is the equivalent of a blackface Brad Pitt playing Barak Obama in a biopic.
My rant on "Write what you know and ONLY what you know"
Former multi-orgasmic virgin here (I knew my body well before I had sex.) (Ignore, that was addressing the unrealistic sex in het romance)
And I’m a Byke who writes GLBT (yes, all four) romances. I know what it is to love a man. I know what lusting for a man I can’t have is like. I’ve had various forms of sex with men. I had a bout of “oh Lady, she’s so HOT!” just last night and, embarassingly, in front of my husband. Did I mention the local Pride committee likes my books and is excited to have me as an exhibitor this year?
I resent the idea that you can ONLY write what you know. That leaves out the whole idea of research. Admittedly a lot of m/m authors skip the research in favor of The Pretty, esp. those in fandom.
I’ve never flown a space-ship, lived with a telepathic cat, been further from London than Dover and Stratford-on-Avon, sailed a sloop, fought a zombie, been hit on by a pixie, been arrested, been in a wheelchair longer than an hour, or crossed between a world where magic works to a high-tech universe.
I write Characters of Color (of ALL colors including blue and orange). I write gay men, straight men, bisexual men, lesbians, bi women, straight women, princesses who aren’t aware they are princes under the skirts, children and telepathic cats.
And I resent any man who comes into a place and tells the women there “You’re all doing it completely wrong and you should do it to suit ME/Stop Immediately/turn your hand to something else I find better!” regardless of his orientation.
Excuse me please. I have conjoined twins in love with the torture artist to write.
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Between this guy, Gay Pride, and Thomas at Romancing the Blog, I have HAD it with men.
Thomas, for those not absorbed in that trainwreck, spends most of it telling women they are wrong and ignorant and probably stupid. This is clearly some new definition of feminism of which I was previously unaware.
At Dear Author, a gay man has showed up to tell all the silly women We're Doin' it RONG! and that women writing gay men is the equivalent of a blackface Brad Pitt playing Barak Obama in a biopic.
My rant on "Write what you know and ONLY what you know"
And I’m a Byke who writes GLBT (yes, all four) romances. I know what it is to love a man. I know what lusting for a man I can’t have is like. I’ve had various forms of sex with men. I had a bout of “oh Lady, she’s so HOT!” just last night and, embarassingly, in front of my husband. Did I mention the local Pride committee likes my books and is excited to have me as an exhibitor this year?
I resent the idea that you can ONLY write what you know. That leaves out the whole idea of research. Admittedly a lot of m/m authors skip the research in favor of The Pretty, esp. those in fandom.
I’ve never flown a space-ship, lived with a telepathic cat, been further from London than Dover and Stratford-on-Avon, sailed a sloop, fought a zombie, been hit on by a pixie, been arrested, been in a wheelchair longer than an hour, or crossed between a world where magic works to a high-tech universe.
I write Characters of Color (of ALL colors including blue and orange). I write gay men, straight men, bisexual men, lesbians, bi women, straight women, princesses who aren’t aware they are princes under the skirts, children and telepathic cats.
And I resent any man who comes into a place and tells the women there “You’re all doing it completely wrong and you should do it to suit ME/Stop Immediately/turn your hand to something else I find better!” regardless of his orientation.
Excuse me please. I have conjoined twins in love with the torture artist to write.
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Between this guy, Gay Pride, and Thomas at Romancing the Blog, I have HAD it with men.
Thomas, for those not absorbed in that trainwreck, spends most of it telling women they are wrong and ignorant and probably stupid. This is clearly some new definition of feminism of which I was previously unaware.
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Date: 2009-05-10 06:14 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-05-10 06:33 pm (UTC)Writing only what one knows could prove to be quite boring.
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Date: 2009-05-10 07:12 pm (UTC)Oh sorry. TMI. *snicker*
And grrrrr @ another man lecturer.
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Date: 2009-05-11 11:34 pm (UTC)Not to mention the incredible toe-hold it would give me. As a post-op trans person who's done everything both genders have to offer, I'm one of the few people fully qualified to write heterosexual sex scenes (using his logic) This could totally be my IN into the industry! I'm sure since my writing would be some of the only authentic first-hand experience from both sides, that I wouldn't even need any writing skills or experience. I'd just automatically be convincing and a total success! Time for me to quit my day job!
Alas, in the interests of full honesty, I must report that (properly seated) the butt of a strap-on feels rather disconcertingly like having a penis. So in all probability, GGs have access to almost the same information that TSs do. It's only men who're as clearly not qualified as he might otherwise imply. (Strangely, this would support my desire to eliminate teen-boys writing females)
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Date: 2009-05-11 11:56 pm (UTC)Where burping cocks like they're babies, twats that give off disappointed queebs and dazzling sprays of urine are ordinary...